A lot of Chiropractors in my experience get a feeling of restlessness, and they feel there’s more…there’s something…there’s got to be something better or got to be something different going on.
I think it’s important to try to understand this restlessness that I’m talking about, and in my experience it is something that can be harnessed and be really good, and for some members it turns out to be a negative thing, because they don’t harness it, or they let it get the best of them in the wrong direction.
The problem is that they get into a survival mode, and it’s a real dangerous mode to be in. I think of the survival mode as practicing or living life with your blinders on; not having any idea what to do first, second, third, and so on.
How clear of a thinker do you think you are when you’re in that situation? You’re not…and what kind of thoughts are going through your head? I know. Things like panic, worry, and anxiety. What causes…what drives your decisions when you’re in that kind of a survival mode usually? FEAR!
When you’re in the survival mode, you make the worst decisions, think the worst, do the dumbest things, make decisions based on desperation and pure panic and fear, and as you get to the point of controlling things, your decisions are all correct and clear and they’re well thought through.
And I think that you need to really try to get to that end of the spectrum as quick as possible, and there’s a couple quick ways you can do it. One way is just to get to it and skip all the other stuff in between. There’s no law that says you have to go through all these steps in life to earn the right to control your life. At least I’ve never read a law like that.
You can just get there by just thinking differently and thinking clearer, and getting to the point where you say, okay, I’m going to skip all this other stuff. I’m going to get to this place right away. Some members just have a hard time “flipping the switch”. If you think you are one of these types of people, don’t be discouraged; just realize it, accept it, and do something about it!
Are You Asking Yourself The Right Questions?
I think a lot of us don’t even ask ourselves any questions or try to analyze things and figure out what’s really going on around us and in our lives.
For example, why do certain events happen? Whatever it might be. You come to one of my rare events like the P.I. event coming up and you talk to somebody that you meet just by accident. Ask yourself, “What message is there in that certain event?…Will taking an action that you’re contemplating taking further your real purpose? Does this combination of people and things feel right to me? What do I have to pay attention to?” These are great questions to ask yourself.
How Many Times Do Things Happen To Us Where There’s A Clear, Distinct Message And We Totally Ignore This Blatant Message That Anybody Else Could See?
It’s telling you what you should do. Now have you ever had the experience of like let’s say with a patient, where the first time you meet this patient, you absolutely cannot stand this patient’s guts from the first second you lay eyes on him or her. Has this ever happened to you? Of course it has.
And then when they talk, your suspicions are confirmed completely…the minute the person opens their mouth. That doesn’t make them bad people. But yet you want to help this person. So you try and bend over backwards and make concessions psychologically, maybe you make financial concessions, or you make all other kinds of concessions. How does that usually end up? What’s usually the net result of all that? Yep, a bad situation. What do you say to yourself weeks, months, years later? What do you finally say to yourself? …“I knew it!”
Trust Your Intuition
There are just some people you can’t help, because they won’t let you help them. They don’t even want to help themselves. I have some members like this. See, you can’t drag people into being compliant with even the most minimal things you ask for, and they still don’t…they give you a hassle. That’s why it is imperative that you become a great marketer and only focus on people who call you first and want what you have to offer. Otherwise you are, “Pushing a string uphill”. (It’s an impossible task, a task 99% of our profession attempts to do day in, and day out.
I have a system I use that’s infallible. It’s my wife Sandi. In fact, for example, I call it the Sandimeter.
If I’m going to consider working with somebody in a joint venture, take on a client or whatever, I’ve learned I will somehow try to run this person past Sandi in some way or another. It might be on a tape or meeting with the person for a few minutes or whatever. And every single time…not almost all the time…every single time she has said to me….”No, zero, not happening, forget it!” And me being the much smarter of the two of us, I’ll tell her, “No, you don’t get this guy, you don’t understand…I know you know about this and that, but it’s not like that, okay? It’s different!”
So then I go and I get involved in the situation, and how does it always turn out 100 percent of the time? Disaster. The only question is how big or little of a disaster, is the only question. But I tried to figure out a way to make it work because I wanted something to happen or I thought something would possibly turn out, and it never does.
Do You Feel Like Life Is An Adventure?
A lot of my members don’t feel like life is an adventure at all. See, to me, I can’t wait to get up every day, and I don’t even like going to bed, because I think I’m going to miss stuff. I mean, that’s why I don’t get enough sleep. That’s because I feel like there’s just so much going on that I wish I could get more stuff…more years to do all these things.
What thoughts preoccupy your mind? Are you forcing events to occur, or are you guiding them to occur? And are you having any fun? I think a lot of you are trying to make stuff happen, which is good, but you’re trying to force things. And I think forcing things is not good. If something’s not supposed to happen and it’s not right, then just bail out. Change what you’re doing.
It’s easy to have life be an adventure when you’re making 25,50, or 100 grand a month, and everything’s going perfect, and your doctors and your CA’s are working perfect, and the patients all love you, it’s easy to be adventurous in that mode. But when nothing’s going right…can life be an adventure at that point? Or should it be? Well, you make it a challenge at that point, but it’s real hard. Hard to step out of it and take emotions out of that situation and you come up with a new goal and a new plan. I understand it all, and I still have problems with it. No, it’s tough, but I’ll tell you one thing I’ve learned to do, and I call it my…
5-Minute Rule
I’ll tell you what my 5-Minute Rule is. My 5-Minute Rule is that if something bad happens, and it can be anywhere from kind of bad through really bad, or I perceive it as being bad, even if it’s not really that bad, because it bothers me for some reason, I have a 5-Minute Rule. And what I do is, I allow myself to wallow in total misery and self-pity privately for 5 minutes. It may occur in the x-ray dark room, in my car, or in a room by myself.
During this 5 minutes I sit and have just…this sucks and it’s unfair, and go through all these immature and childish things and go through all this wallowing and all that. And then I look at my watch after the 5 minutes is up, and okay, I’ve earned…I’ve had my fun now, I’ve wallowed in self-pity for 5 minutes. And now I have to figure out how to fix this. And then I go into a solution-oriented mode, and I change…and I go back into,
“Okay, this is a big challenge, it’s going to be a problem, but this is kind of an adventure in some results because I have no idea how I’m going to fix this. I’ve never dealt with this situation before, but I’m going to fix it, and it’s going to be kind of interesting, and I’m going to step back and take a look at what happens here, and maybe I’ll learn some good stuff out of it.”
Are You Too Preoccupied?
Do you wish for things to change or do you expect things to change. Is your mind open to answers? I think a lot of us really get preoccupied in our brains, and we just let a lot of thoughts dominate what goes on in our mind. And I think that wishing for things to change is not good enough. It’s just not good enough. It may be okay psychologically for the short run, but it’s not good enough. I think you have to expect things to change.
When you’re expecting things to happen or expecting things to change, your mind will open up to answers and solutions that are right there in front of you. And those messages you got that were in your face and you couldn’t figure out before, you can really tune into a different frequency. It’s really amazing how you can do this. And you can get very, very good at it. But if you’re preoccupied with things, you’ll never get your mind tuned to that higher level of frequency.
There’s a lot of people…maybe you are one of these people or know people who just seem to be tuned into a higher frequency in life? They just seem to get stuff, and things happen to them. They’re always getting big deals, or they’re making something. What’s different about them versus people who aren’t like that? Do they have any extra capacities? Is their head bigger? Do they have a bigger cranial capacity? Are they given any special talents? I don’t believe any of that’s true. I just believe they figured out that you can tune your body to a different frequency, and they’re just going to tune their body into the highest level frequency they want to be at. And I totally believe you can do that.
But you cannot do that if your mind is preoccupied. And if you’re wishing for things to change, that’s too weak. Hoping for things is too weak. You’ve got to really have your mind open and tuned into the right frequency. In order for things you want to happen, you must be highly aware…aware, and in a highly aware state of mind. One way of doing this is to…
Practice Clear Visual Imagery And Imagine
And Feel And Experience Something That You Really Want To Have Happen Really Bad.
If you visualize this thing so clearly in your mind, your mind, and the subconscious part of your mind, and I don’t believe there’s like a conscious and a subconscious like there’s a big gap, I think it’s a continuum. But whatever the subconscious part of our mind is, it does not have the ability to distinguish between fantasy and reality.
When you imagine these things and visualize these things in a crystal clear picture of what it is that you want, and like reinventing your practice, and you see exactly what it’s like and how it feels and how you feel, how your patients feel. When you walk in, what it looks like, what the parking lot looks like, what the office…what your house looks like, what your life looks like…your mind doesn’t know that didn’t happen yet. It thinks it’s already happened. And what happens as a result of that, you become very, very aware.
In a highly aware state of mind you’ll bring the future into the present because of this visualization, and then your subconscious mind will drive you and make your awareness so acute that you will make the right decisions, you will not take the wrong actions, you’ll pay attention to the messages, you’ll know what the messages mean when they’re presented to you, and you’ll do all the things that will quickly and rapidly lead you to that picture becoming reality. And it’s really, really neat how this happens. Again, I don’t understand how this happens exactly. I’m not sure. My beliefs on it are basically irrelevant. All I know is that it works. I can’t explain necessarily why. And enthusiasm and hopeful expectation can produce answers. But really wanting something is not even close enough. See, just saying, I want to reinvent my practice doesn’t…it’s not going to get it. You’re going to have to go through, in my opinion, this process of visualizing this, seeing it in your mind’s eye, every tiny detail of it, visualizing it and seeing it so that you can make it happen in the very near future.
Negative Emotions Like Greed, Anger, Fear, Resentment, Jealousy, Skepticism, And Victimism Drain Energy, Thereby Preventing You From Giving Energy And Preventing You From Receiving The Energy You Need.
I think that the bottom line of all of this is that what good do negative emotions do in almost any circumstances, in any case? What good do they serve? What purpose do they serve? None.
If you’ve ever been like jealous of somebody, for example, or if you ever felt like a victim, poor me…how many of you have ever felt victimized maybe by things, or I’m a victim of certain circumstances. There’s a woman I know who’s a very, very intelligent woman. She says there’s no victims, there’s only volunteers. You can’t be a victim unless you volunteer to be a victim. Right? Because when something happens that’s bad, and you get negative energy and emotions, what choices do you have in that circumstance? How do you react to it? You can’t change the circumstance, right? What can you change? How you deal with it and how you react to it. And I think that a lot of people don’t get the fact that these negative emotions that you have are all horrible and they suck all the energy out of you, and they suck the energy out of people around you. (Have you ever noticed, if you’re having a really bad day, maybe at the office, that the whole office seems to be in a real bad mood, too, and that things are just really lousy around the office for that day or week or month…or year? Patients don’t show up, cancellations increase, etc.)
Self-Imposed Limitations Are Hard To Climb Over And Bust Through.
Focusing on the struggle instead of on solutions give the illusion of control instead of solutions for the real problems. Letting deep-seated fears dictate your actions. Let’s talk about some of these things. Do you feel like maybe sometimes you get locked into a certain position that you’ve chosen to get locked into, and when you analyze it, there really isn’t a good reason to be locked in those positions. This is something you made a decision on, and that’s my story, and I’m sticking to it? Have you ever been in that kind of a mode?
I think that really limits you in your growth and your development and getting success and doing things you want in life. And being judgmental is another big problem. You can be judgmental, and it really limits you dramatically if you’re judgmental. I hear a lot of weird things, and I see a lot of weird things, and I have things related to me that I’m like, holy cow, that’s really weird. But I don’t…I try to step back and take a viewpoint and say, well, even though that’s completely weird for me and I’d never get involved in this or I don’t like this, I’m not going to judge this person, because it’s not my place to do that. That’s a very open and very empowering thing when you do that. It allows you…your world grows much bigger when you quit becoming judgmental about stuff. Everything isn’t black or white. Especially in our profession.
Most members I deal with have a lot of preconceived black-and-white biases emotionally. And are there that many things that are really that black and white in reality? Aren’t there a lot of gray areas out there? And I think that you limit yourself tremendously when you live in a black and white world instead of trying to look at the gray areas and seeing if you can maybe take another viewpoint on this and be open to something different.
Recognizing Your Purpose Allows For The Flow Of Coincidences And Answers
Which Are Provided By Other People.
People are going to give you the answers to what you’re looking for. Don’t forget that when you get a flow of energy into you, you should let the energy flow out of you. It’s constantly being replaced by the higher source of energy. You will not need to control others by taking people’s energy by manipulation or invasion. You must give all the people you come into contact with your complete attention. They have a message for you, or you have one for them. You have to really pay attention to other people and pay attention to what they’re telling you.
When you’re in a selling situation or in the environment that may be feeling like selling, like when you’re trying to get new patients, I think a lot of times you get caught in a trap where you are trying to manipulate or intimidate people in some way, trying to make them do things that they don’t want to do, that they’re not ready to do, they’re not right, it’s not right for them. So why are you trying to force that to happen? Because you need it to happen.
It’s Never Worth It. And It’s Real, Real Hard To Understand That And To Realize That Your Success Will Come From Not Intimidating, Manipulating, Or Controlling, But Just From Constantly Being In The Right State Of Mind And With The Right Awareness And The Right Energy And Your Mind To The Right Frequency.
It’s amazing how good things happen to you and continue to happen, if you’re never forcing anybody to do anything. I have a rule when people contact me if they’re interested in doing business or hiring me or whatever, I’ll give them the information they want, and I’ll be glad to help them any way I can, but I’m not chasing anybody around for anything. They know where I’m at. If they want to do something, they know where to find me. And it’s not because I’m cocky, it’s not because I don’t like making money or I don’t want to get new clients, or…I do. It’s just a simple matter that I’ve given them everything I can give them, and if the situation is not right for them at this moment in time, and they don’t want to get back to me, well, that’s fine.
I hate convincing anybody of anything. I don’t like trying to convince people, because the energy level it takes to convince them is that you’re trying to steal their energy, and you have a negative energy state yourself, the whole thing’s just not worth it. So if they want to do it, they do, and if they don’t, they don’t. And that’s a very good attitude to have.
What happens to you when you have that attitude, do you think? How do people react to you, if it’s not a cocky, obnoxious attitude, but just a true, sincere, confident attitude. What happens to people? How do they react to you? Do they feel good about being around you? Are they excited and happy to see you all the time? People a lot of times will tell you, “I like seeing you, I like coming in here.” They can’t even tell you why. I know why now, because I figured all this stuff out. But they don’t know why. They perceive this whole thing, and they really feel good about it, and they want to be around you. It’s good for people to want to be around you. It’s good for your practice.
Fear Is The Block In The Road
It takes us out of the moment and makes us focus on the past and the future. And there’s always a message in this fear you experience. You must acknowledge it before you can release it. Being in a higher state of consciousness will allow you to interpret the message you get from others and help you use the message to release this fear.
Whenever fear, anxiety or worry dominate your thoughts, look for the messages even harder. Shift your mind to your purpose, and negative emotions can be released. See, I think a lot of people live their life in the past and in the future. Not the good way I’m talking about where you visualize the future and bring it into the present, but a lot of people dwell on the past. That’s all that they focus on and live through. Other people are always living in the future. Have you ever said, “When such and such occurs, then I will such and such, then I will be happy, then I will be satisfied or I will be fulfilled.” Have any of you ever felt or experienced that sort of thing? And it really isn’t that productive, is it? What are you missing when you’re doing…when you’re thinking about the future all the time, what are you missing? The present moment…Life.
You’re missing your life, you’re missing your moment. You’re also missing messages. You’re missing what people are telling you, you’re missing the answers to the messages, you’re missing the answers to your fears that are right there in front of you, to get rid of them and unlock them. But you’re not going to notice them because you’re so busy, if this happens, then this will happen. And you’ve got to get to the point where you really live in the present and use that energy from the flow of energy to constantly be focusing on the present and dealing with the things as they are now.
Struggling Or Fighting Or Overworking Or Forcing To Make Things Happen Does Not Allow You To Be In The Flow Of Universal Energy. You Have To Become An Observer To See What’s Really Going On.
Most of your answers will come from other people, people you are attracted and are in tune to, because you have taken your consciousness to the point where you can receive because you can give. And this is really a very important part of this message. You have to be able to take back and be an observer. And let me give you a quick example. Has anybody ever told you a story about a real problem they’re having in their life, and it’s like this horrible problem. And you listen to this story, and the answer is so clear and so obvious to you. Yet for this person, they can have no clue what the answer is. For example, it’s an abusive relationship. For example, they’re telling you that they were beaten by their spouse, or somebody pulled a gun on them, or it’s something really bad. Things like that…things that happen to people. And you’re listening to this story, and what are you thinking in your head when you’re hearing this story? Why are you still there?
What the heck are you doing? How hard is this to figure out? Why can’t this person figure out the answer that’s so obvious and clear to you? They’re not an observer. They’re in the middle of it, okay? So if they’re in the middle of it, they can’t see the answers. And how do you get back to becoming an observer? How do you watch what’s going on from an objective viewpoint?
When you’re in the middle of the misery and the problems and the stress and the anxiety, you have to tap into the flow of energy and step back out, and let the flow of energy in the universe give you your support and realize that, if somebody told me this story, what would I tell them? What would I see, okay? And then the answer’s right there. And you can’t do that if you’re not an observer, if you’re in the middle of it, it’s impossible. You cannot do it. It’s the reason my business exists. You hired Altadonna Communications, Inc. to find the things that maybe you just can’t figure it out. So call us when you’re stuck and listen closely to what we tell you.
“Don’t Make Things Hard On Yourself!”
This is another lesson I’ve learned. You have two options about how you deal with things. You can make things easy on yourself or hard on yourself. Why do we…and I think in America this is more common than other countries…I’ve been to other countries…why do we in America love to make everything as hard as possible? As complicated as possible. As annoying as possible. As difficult…why do we do this? I’m not sure I can figure out why. For example, is it our work ethic, going back to the Puritans coming over on the boat when they got kicked out of England, and they believed that no pain, no gain type of philosophy and there’s no reward, the work itself is the reward? I mean, is that possible that maybe that’s how we got to this stage? That’s the whole American way of life.
That’s the whole American philosophy. Now I haven’t picked up this philosophy. I think that…yes, there’s some enjoyment in the work, but I like the results better than the work usually, and I’m always trying to make it as easy as I can, and most people find ways to complicate everything. The other issue that relates to this is making things simple, and it’s very difficult for us, the way we think. And you’ve got to try and figure out how you can make things easy on yourself.
You can’t push a string uphill.
This is beating the dead horse, this is blind persistence, it’s the concept of trying to make things happen when you really don’t…they’re not going to happen, and nature doesn’t want them to happen, but you’re going to make it happen anyway. I want to reinforce this because you cannot push a string uphill, and you cannot beat a dead horse. And it takes a very mature, intelligent attitude to realize when to let go.
A lot of times when I do my exclusive events, people come up to me later, or they send me a note, or I see them at another event, you know, the best thing I got out of your seminar was, I was able to let go of the thing I was doing. It just sucked, and I wouldn’t let go of it, and that was the best thing that happened. Now a lot of other great things happened, but the best thing was, I was able to let go of this particular thing because I was finally giving myself permission to do it, and I don’t know why I didn’t do it sooner.
Watching Your Back,
Ben
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